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Motivation Comes From People — Turning Desire Into Drive

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Opening: Why I Want to Talk About Motivation

For a long time I believed I was simply a person with weak willpower.

My plan to wake up at five and memorize English vocabulary never lasted three days. My resolution to work on a side project every weekend reset every quarter. The conclusion was always the same: I am just lazy. I kept blaming a single muscle called willpower, and kept punishing myself for that muscle being weak.

What changed my mind was a tiny incident. A senior colleague on my team said something offhand over lunch.

"You are so relentless when you play table tennis. You never get tired, half an hour, an hour, whatever. So why can it not work like that when you study?"

I could not answer on the spot. I went home and thought hard. When I play table tennis, I have never once felt that I am holding on through willpower. It was simply fun, winning one point made me curious about the next, and there were people playing with me. But studying English was always an act of enduring.

That day I realized something. The problem was not my willpower. The problem was the structure of my motivation. The very same person had endless drive for one thing and not a single drop for another. If that was true, then motivation might not be an inborn personality trait but something I could design.

To be upfront, this post is closer to one person's work log than an academic paper. So I prioritized the things I actually tested by bumping into them over grand theory. I borrowed theory only as a tool to explain my own experience.

This post is the record of several years of reading, experimenting, failing, and re-organizing what I learned about motivation. Here is the conclusion up front. More than half of any work is motivation, and a large part of that motivation is made by people. And rather than squeezing motivation out by force of will, it is far more efficient to treat it as a system that turns desire into drive.

The Core Insight: Motivation Is Structure, Not Personality

My biggest misconception about motivation was the belief that there are motivated people and unmotivated people as two separate kinds, the way height or blood type is inborn.

But the same person can have wildly different levels of motivation depending on the situation. At the table tennis hall I am endlessly persistent, yet in front of an expense spreadsheet I drift off within five minutes. This is not because my personality changes every five minutes. It is because the motivational structure of the two activities is completely different.

So I changed the question. Instead of "why is my willpower weak?" I asked "under what conditions does my motivation come alive?" That small shift changed everything. The first question ends in self-blame. The second leads to experiments.

Desire Is Not Bad, It Is Fuel

In our culture, desire is often treated as something shameful. Phrases like "let go of greed" and "empty your mind" pass for virtue. Of course, uncontrolled desire ruins people. But desire itself is fuel. The wish to be recognized, the wish to get better, the wish to be ahead of others. Treating these as sins is like trying to travel far with an empty fuel tank.

The point is not to eliminate desire but to wire it in a healthy direction. The desire to be recognized becomes poison when wired to "look good by tearing others down," but becomes medicine when wired to "earn trust by building real skill." Same desire, different wiring.

Going Deeper 1: Self-Determination Theory as a Map

When I began to see motivation as structure, the most helpful thing was Self-Determination Theory (SDT) by psychologists Edward Deci and Richard Ryan. It is research built up over decades since the 1970s, and the core claim is simple.

A person's intrinsic motivation comes alive when three basic psychological needs are met.

  1. Autonomy: the sense that I chose this myself
  2. Competence: the sense that I am getting better
  3. Relatedness: the sense that I am connected to someone

Once I understood these three, all of my experience made sense.

Table tennis met all three. I decided when and how to play (autonomy), I could feel my smash getting more accurate than a month before (competence), and there were people playing with me (relatedness). The early-morning English study, by contrast, was thin on all three. It started from the pressure of "I have to" (no autonomy), I could not tell whether I was improving even after memorizing words (no competence), and I did it alone in a back room (no relatedness).

No wonder motivation never appeared. It was not that my willpower was weak; all three inlets for the fuel were blocked.

Turning the Three Needs Into a Checklist

So now, whenever I start something new, I use these three like a checklist.

[ Motivation Diagnostic ]
Autonomy: Does this feel like something I chose?
          (Or does it feel like someone is making me do it?)
Competence: Is there a way to see my progress?
            (Can I measure small wins?)
Relatedness: Are there people involved in this?
             (Someone doing it with me, watching, or cheering)

I redesigned my English study with this checklist. Instead of "the company told me to," I reframed the reason as "I want to negotiate directly on a business trip to Japan" (autonomy), I stacked memorized sentences in a notebook so progress was visible (competence), and I agreed to eat lunch in English only with a colleague who had the same goal once a week (relatedness). After that, English study turned from "an act of enduring" into "something I looked forward to."

Going Deeper 2: People Move People

Of the three needs, the one I underestimated most was relatedness. I used to think motivation was something that happened alone inside my own head. But looking back, almost every major change in my life came through people.

This happened when I worked at LINE. Early on, I was afraid of code review. Worried my code would get torn apart, I would split my PRs as small as possible and quietly submit them. Then one senior colleague left this comment on my PR.

"Nice approach here. If it were me I might take it one step further; want to look at it together?"

It was not a takedown but an invitation to go together. That one line changed my attitude. After that I stopped fearing reviews and started waiting for them, and that period was exactly when my skills grew the fastest.

What I learned here is this. Another person's single sentence is a wire connected directly to my motivation circuit. The same fact, delivered as "why do you not know this," switches motivation off, while delivered as "shall we figure this out together" switches it on. The amount of information is identical, but the effect on motivation is the opposite.

Conversations That Switch Motivation On vs. Off

Let me compare some dialogue examples I have collected. Nearly the same situation, opposite effect.

Situation: a junior colleague misses a deadline

Words that switch motivation off:

"Late again. How many times is this now?"

Words that switch motivation on:

"Where did you get stuck this time? Next time let us untangle that part together in advance."

Situation: a colleague tries something new and fails

Words that switch motivation off:

"See, I told you it would not work."

Words that switch motivation on:

"The attempt itself is data. What did you learn this time?"

The difference is subtle but the effect is large. Words that switch motivation off place a person as an object of evaluation; words that switch it on place a person as a colleague solving it together. In SDT terms, the on-switching words fill relatedness and competence at the same time, because they reframe even failure as "something learned" and protect the sense of competence.

So these days, when I want to help someone's motivation, I ask myself: is what I am about to say evaluating this person, or inviting them to go together?

Going Deeper 3: Balancing Intrinsic and Extrinsic Motivation

Reading this far, it is easy to think "then I should just take care of intrinsic motivation." But reality is not that clean. We receive salaries, get evaluated, and want recognition. Completely ignoring extrinsic motivation is either hypocritical or unrealistic.

Daniel Pink, in his book Drive, captured the relationship between the two well. For simple, repetitive tasks, external rewards (carrots and sticks) work to a degree, but for work that requires creativity and judgment, intrinsic motivation such as autonomy, mastery, and purpose is far more powerful.

In my own terms: extrinsic motivation is good for starting the engine, and intrinsic motivation is good for going far. When I first started English, the extrinsic motivation of "not embarrassing myself on a business trip" started the engine. But what kept me going for one year, two years, was the intrinsic joy of "the world widening when I read books in the original language."

Comparing the Two

I organized the traits of intrinsic and extrinsic motivation.

AspectIntrinsic motivationExtrinsic motivation
SourceJoy and meaning of the activity itselfRewards, evaluation, others' eyes
StrengthLasts long, sustains creativityImmediate, fast to start
WeaknessTakes time to catch fireDies out when the reward stops
Best forLearning, creation, long projectsSimple repetition, short goals
RiskCan drift into perfectionismErodes intrinsic motivation if over-relied on

That last cell, "erodes intrinsic motivation if over-relied on," is the heart of the next section.

The Pitfall: Over-Reliance on Reward and the Undermining Effect

The most shocking concept I encountered while studying motivation was the overjustification effect (also called the undermining effect).

When you attach an external reward to something you originally did for enjoyment, the disappearance of that reward can take the original intrinsic motivation away with it. In Deci and Ryan's early experiments, people who liked solving puzzles were paid each time they solved one; after the money stopped, they actually solved fewer puzzles in their free time. The reward had quietly replaced "because it is fun" with "because I get paid."

I fell into this trap too. There was a time when I wrote a technical blog as a hobby. I wrote because I simply enjoyed organizing what I knew, but at some point I became obsessed with view counts and likes. When the views did not come, I lost the will to write, and eventually I could not write at all for a while. The intrinsic motivation of "the joy of writing" had been eaten by the external reward of "numbers."

The balancing principles I learned from that experience are these.

  • Use external rewards only to start the engine, not as the main fuel. Even if you start with a reward, gradually uncover the joy of the activity itself and shift the center of gravity inward.
  • Do not carelessly attach rewards to something already enjoyable. The moment you attach monetization to a hobby you love, you risk losing that hobby.
  • Treat numbers as a signal, not a goal. A view count is at best a rough signal of "did this help," not the reason for writing itself.

That said, I call it balance for a reason. Treating extrinsic motivation as unconditionally bad is also a pitfall. Appropriate reward and recognition keep people alive. A fair salary lets you immerse yourself with peace of mind, and sincere praise fills relatedness. The point is not "eliminating" but "making the master-servant relationship clear." You go farthest when intrinsic motivation is the master and extrinsic motivation is the helper.

Practice: Designing a Motivation System for Yourself

Now let me move the abstract talk into a system you can actually use. This is the four-step framework I still use. I will simply call it "turning desire into drive."

Step 1: Write Down Your Desires Honestly

Not lying to yourself is the starting point. "I purely want growth, nothing else" is usually a lie. Write down honestly, on paper, the wish to be recognized, to earn money, to be better than others. Hidden desire does not disappear; it leaks out somewhere strange.

My real desires (honestly)
- I want to be recognized by colleagues as someone skilled
- I want to work in English without getting stuck
- I want to be a person with many options five years from now

Step 2: Wire Desire Into Healthy Behavior

Decide what behavior to connect each desire to. The same desire becomes medicine or poison depending on the wiring.

Desire -> Healthy wiring
"Want recognition" -> "Consistently write posts that help others" (O)
                   -> "Stand out by tearing others down in meetings" (X)
"Want to be ahead" -> "Be 1 percent better than yesterday's me" (O)
                   -> "See colleagues only as competitors" (X)

Step 3: Build an Environment That Fills the Three Needs

Plant the three SDT needs (autonomy, competence, relatedness) into your behavioral environment. Relatedness in particular has to be designed deliberately, because people are the first thing to drop out when you are left alone.

BJ Fogg's behavior model helps here too. He saw behavior as happening when motivation, ability, and a prompt (trigger) meet at the same moment. For behavior to happen even on days when motivation is not high, you need to make the behavior very small to lower the ability barrier and attach a clear prompt.

Environment design example (learning English)
Autonomy: frame it as "my own trip goal," not "the company told me to"
Competence: stack memorized sentences in a notebook to see progress
Relatedness: a weekly English-only lunch with a colleague
Lower the ability barrier: minimize from "study 30 minutes" to "memorize 1 sentence"
Trigger: attach it to a fixed prompt, "right after I brew my morning coffee"

Step 4: Watch Signals Without Being Eaten by Reward

Finally, check in regularly. See whether you are being swayed by external signals (numbers, evaluation) and whether the center of gravity is still on intrinsic motivation. Once a month I ask myself this question: "Would I keep doing this even if all the rewards disappeared?" If the answer is yes, the state is healthy; if no, it is a sign that the wiring needs a second look.

Step-by-Step Practice Checklist

I organized it as a checklist you can use right away.

  • I wrote down honestly, on paper, the real desire behind what I am about to do
  • I wired that desire into a healthy behavior that does no harm to others
  • I rewrote the reason so this feels like something I chose (autonomy)
  • I created a way to measure and see my progress (competence)
  • I pulled in at least one person to do it with me or watch (relatedness)
  • I split the behavior small enough that it is hard to refuse (lower the barrier)
  • I set a fixed prompt that attaches the new behavior to an existing habit (trigger)
  • I decided to use external rewards only to start, not as the main fuel
  • I decided to check monthly whether I would continue with no reward at all

The key feature of this checklist is that the word "willpower" never appears once. The argument of this whole post, that motivation is designed rather than squeezed, is built right into it.

Growth Motivation: The Bridge From Desire to Learning

Finally, I want to talk about the healthiest direction to use desire, namely connecting it to learning and growth.

Carol Dweck's research on the growth mindset shows the heart of this bridge. A person who sees ability as fixed takes failure as evidence that "I am just not cut out for this," and motivation switches off. A person who sees ability as something that can grow takes failure as "a state of not there yet," and motivation is sustained. Same failure, different interpretation, opposite motivational result.

On top of this I use the 70-20-10 learning principle. It is a rule of thumb that about 70 percent of learning comes from real work and experience, 20 percent from interaction with others (feedback, mentoring), and 10 percent from formal education (books, courses). The exact ratio matters less than the message. Most growth happens not at the desk but in real practice and between people. In other words, if you want to grow your motivation to learn, it is more efficient to first secure real work to face and a person to give feedback, before signing up for more courses.

Seen this way, every piece of this post gathers into one. Desire is fuel, the three SDT needs are the inlets where fuel enters, people are the most powerful channel among those inlets, and the growth mindset is the valve that keeps fuel from leaking even when failure arrives.

A Longer Arc: What Changed Over Six Months

Listing abstract principles alone may not land, so let me unfold a record of actually running the system above for six months. It is the English-learning story.

The first month was honestly a mess. The resolution was grand but it collapsed within three days. The same old pattern. So I stopped, and redesigned by writing the four steps above on paper.

From the second month, small changes began. The first thing I changed was relatedness. I asked a Japanese colleague on my team whether they could eat lunch in English with me once a week. It was awkward at first, but once the appointment existed I could not run away. On days when, alone, I would have said "I am tired today, pass," the appointment made me do at least the minimum preparation.

In the third month, I took care of competence. I stacked one line of memorized expressions in a small notebook every day, and after two months the notebook had grown quite thick. Seeing that thickness with my own eyes was strangely empowering. The sense of "I have done this much" is exactly competence.

In the fourth month, a crisis came. With frequent dinners and overlapping overtime, the flow broke. In the past I would have given up completely here. But this time was different. The minimal unit of "just memorize one sentence" saved me. No matter how tired, I could memorize one sentence, and that single one kept the flow from dropping to zero.

In the sixth month, on a business trip to Japan, I ran a meeting without an interpreter. It was not perfect, but I delivered the heart of the negotiation in my own words. On the way back to the hotel, a strange feeling came over me. This was not the result of enduring by willpower. It was the result of leaving the inlets for motivation open, so motivation flowed in on its own.

What I want to emphasize in this case is not "consistency." On the contrary, I wavered many times along the way. The key was the structure that kept things from falling to zero even when I wavered. Motivation is less an endlessly burning flame and more an ember that nearly dies yet catches again. Keeping that ember alive is the role of the system.

When Motivation Runs Dry: The Craft of Recovery

No matter how well you design it, days come when motivation runs dry. I have come to accept this as normal rather than failure. The problem is not the drop in motivation itself, but the vicious cycle of falling into self-blame when it drops and sinking even deeper.

I have a recovery sequence I use when motivation hits bottom.

[ Motivation Recovery Sequence ]
1. Stop the self-blame
   Not "I am hopeless after all" but "my fuel is empty right now"
2. Do just one smallest action
   One sentence, one line of code, one push-up
3. Connect to a person
   A one-line update to a colleague, set a plan to do it together
4. See progress with your eyes again
   Open up the notebook or records you have stacked
5. Rewrite the reason
   Write down in one sentence why you started

The most important step here is the first. A dip in motivation is a natural rhythm, but adding self-blame to it hardens a temporary dip into chronic avoidance. To borrow Carol Dweck's framing, the first thing a fixed view of ability breaks is exactly this capacity to recover.

The work of Christina Maslach, well known for research on burnout, points in the same direction. Chronic burnout comes not from a lack of willpower but from the accumulation of environmental burden. In other words, the starting point of recovery is not "try harder" but "lighten the load and reopen the inlets." (That said, persistent listlessness or deep burnout is not something to treat as merely a matter of individual willpower, and seeking professional help when needed is the wise choice.)

Environment and Motivation: Environment Over Willpower

One belief changed most as I began to treat motivation as a system. Do not try to change a person with willpower; change behavior with environment. This is a message James Clear repeatedly emphasizes in his writing on habits. He argues that it is not the highly motivated person who succeeds, but the one who built an environment that keeps rolling even on low-motivation days.

My experience was exactly that. When I put my English vocabulary book deep in a desk drawer, I forgot it existed within three days. But when I placed that book next to my pillow, I turned at least one page before sleep. My willpower had not grown stronger. The physical distance between the book and me had simply shrunk. I reduced the friction that blocks behavior and raised the friction on the behavior I wanted less.

I use this in two directions. Good behaviors I keep close by reducing their friction; bad behaviors I push away by increasing their friction. If I want to exercise, I lay out my workout clothes the night before; if I want to look at my phone less, I keep the charger outside the bedroom. This dovetails with SDT too. A low-friction environment grows the sense of autonomy ("I do this easily by my own choice"), and a chain of small behaviors stacks up the sense of competence.

Environments That Switch Motivation On vs. Off

I organized the differences in environment I have observed into a table. The same person's motivation level varies greatly depending on which environment you place them in.

FactorEnvironment that switches motivation onEnvironment that switches it off
Starting frictionBehavior is small and immediately possibleMuch preparation, high barrier
Progress visibilityStacked records are visibleNo way to tell how much you did
PeopleSomeone doing it with you or watchingThoroughly alone
FeedbackFast, specific, and kindSlow or evaluation-centered
ChoiceRoom to pick the method yourselfEverything forced and fixed

Looking at the right column, it becomes clear that it was not weak willpower but an environment switching motivation off. So before I ask "why am I not doing this," I first look at "which column's environment am I in right now."

Changing the Environment Is a Small Move

When you hear "environment design," it sounds like it needs a grand resolution, but in practice a very small move is often enough. I call this "a 1 percent friction adjustment."

For example, when I wanted to write every day, instead of steeling my willpower I only changed a setting so that opening my laptop immediately brought up a blank writing document. I had merely cut out a few clicks, but as the frequency of facing a blank screen rose, so did the amount I wrote. Conversely, when I wanted to cut down on getting sucked into videos at night, I moved the app from my home screen to the last folder. I had only made my fingers move a couple of extra times, yet the number of times I opened it absentmindedly dropped noticeably.

When these small adjustments add up, the default of behavior changes without leaning on willpower. Instead of waiting for high-motivation days, you pave the road in advance so things keep rolling even on low-motivation days. I think this is the most practical definition of what "managing motivation" means.

Rebuilding a Mentee's Motivation Through Dialogue

Switching on someone else's motivation can sound abstract, so let me unfold a case I went through directly. There was a junior colleague who had not been on the team long. They had plenty of skill but kept shrinking back. Even after submitting a PR, they would say "I am not sure this is right," and gradually they reduced new attempts.

At first I said "have some confidence." It had no effect. Of course it did not. "Have some confidence" is an attempt to inject motivation directly, and that simply does not work. So I changed the approach. I decided to fill the three SDT needs one by one.

Competence first. Instead of vague praise, I pointed to a specific spot in the code they wrote.

"Handling that exception in advance here is the part that will greatly reduce bugs later. You did this with good judgment."

They looked a little surprised. It was the face of someone hearing for the first time that something they did casually had value. Autonomy next. Instead of giving them the answer, I gave them options.

"I see about two ways to work through this part. Which one pulls at you more? Both are reasonable, so go with whichever you pick."

Relatedness last. So they would not struggle alone, I created a regular slot. Thirty minutes every week to look together at what went well and what got stuck. I made clear this was not a place for evaluation but a place to solve things together.

A few months later they had changed. They began proposing new approaches first, and even when they failed they would say "this time I learned this." I did not create their motivation. I only opened three inlets for the motivation already inside them to flow out. This experience gave me conviction: motivation is not something you inject but a matter of opening inlets.

The Measurement Trap: Vanity Metrics vs. Real Progress

I emphasized earlier that to fill competence you have to see progress with your eyes. But a trap hides here. Depending on what you measure, motivation can either come alive or break down.

You will remember my story of losing the joy of writing while obsessed with blog view counts. That was exactly the measurement trap. View counts look impressive but are beyond my control and a poor fit with the essential value of writing. Such things are often called vanity metrics. Numbers that are big and feel good, yet tell you nothing about whether you are actually doing well.

I came to distinguish what to measure like this.

[ Vanity metrics vs meaningful progress ]
Vanity metrics (be careful)
- View counts, likes, follower counts
- Total hours studied (quality drops out)
- Ranking comparisons against others

Meaningful progress (recommended)
- The number of concepts I can newly explain
- How many problems I solved today that I could not yesterday
- One specific response that "this helped"

The core difference is controllability and meaning. Vanity metrics are mostly beyond my control (whether others will like it is not my department) and far from the essence. Meaningful progress, by contrast, connects directly to my behavior and fills the sense of competence honestly. So when I start something new, after asking "how do I measure this," I ask once more, "is this measure vanity or progress?"

Correcting Misconceptions: Common Myths About Motivation

Finally, let me organize a few misconceptions I myself believed and then discarded while studying motivation. These myths are so common that they are worth addressing.

  • Myth 1: Motivation must come before action. Many people say "I will start once I feel motivated." But the order is often the reverse. Doing a small action first creates a sense of competence, and that sense summons motivation. Motivation is often not the condition for starting but the result of starting.

  • Myth 2: Highly motivated people are always overflowing with motivation. No. They too have days when motivation runs dry. The difference is that they have an environment and system that keep rolling even on low-motivation days. What you see is the result; the secret is the design.

  • Myth 3: External rewards are unconditionally good for motivation. They help with simple tasks, but attaching reward to something already enjoyable can erode intrinsic motivation through the undermining effect. Reward is not a cure-all but a tool with a specific use.

  • Myth 4: Motivation is purely an individual matter. This is the misconception the whole post refutes. A large part of motivation flows between people and environment. The same person comes alive on a good team and withers on a bad one. If you see motivation only as a matter of individual willpower, you miss environment, the very largest lever you can actually change.

  • Myth 5: Once motivation drops, the day is a write-off. Even on a day when motivation is zero, you do not have to make your behavior zero. The key is not "do it all today" but "do not break the flow." If you keep going with even one sentence or one line of code, it is far easier to reconnect tomorrow. Motivation is not a contest decided day by day but a long, continuing curve.

Motivation for Myself and Motivation for Others

One thought kept circling as I wrote this post: designing my own motivation and switching on someone else's motivation are actually the same skill.

When I write "nice approach, shall we take it one step further together" on a colleague's PR, I am filling that person's relatedness and competence at the same time. That is the very principle I use when designing my own motivation. The only difference is whether the target is myself or someone else.

So when I work on a team, I consciously try to be a person who switches motivation on. It is nothing grand. When someone shows a small bit of progress, point to it specifically (competence); leave options open in a decision (autonomy); reach out to someone struggling alone and say let us go together (relatedness). When these small actions add up, the whole team's level of motivation rises.

Will Larson, who writes a lot about leadership, often names "an atmosphere where people help each other grow" as a trait of good engineering organizations. In the end, motivation is not a problem inside an individual's head but something that flows between people. When I become a good channel for that flow, strangely, my own motivation comes alive too.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Q. What about work that genuinely produces no motivation at all? You do not have to love every task. Some things, like filing taxes, are inherently hard to enjoy. For these, rather than forcing intrinsic motivation, it is realistic to reduce friction by splitting them small (lowering the barrier) and attaching them to a clear prompt (trigger). Giving yourself a small reward after finishing is fine too. This is a legitimate use of external reward.

Q. On days when motivation drops, should I just rest? The key is to not let behavior fall to zero even on days when motivation is zero. If you make the behavior extremely small in the Fogg style ("just one sentence"), the flow does not break even on low-motivation days. Continuing in a small way is more sustainable than enduring on willpower.

Q. Can you forcibly raise someone else's motivation? You cannot inject it directly, because motivation comes from within the person. But you can build an environment. If you give autonomy (choice), recognize competence (specific praise), and fill relatedness (an invitation to go together), the room for the other person's intrinsic motivation to come alive grows larger. That is the real meaning of saying people move people.

Q. Does using extrinsic motivation always make things worse? No. The key is the master-servant relationship. There is no problem when external reward starts the engine and intrinsic motivation is the main force. You only need to be careful about attaching reward to something you already enjoy, because the undermining effect can take even the original joy away.

Q. Is all of this just another name for willpower? It is the opposite, actually. The premise of this post is to not lean on willpower. Willpower fluctuates wildly and depletes fast. That is why the key is to design, in advance, environments and systems that work even on low-motivation days. Willpower is just insurance for when you fall short, not the main engine.

Q. If measurement keeps motivation alive, why warn against measuring? It looks contradictory, but the key is "what you measure." Measuring progress that is directly tied to your behavior and within your control fills competence and keeps motivation alive. Measuring uncontrollable vanity metrics like view counts, by contrast, leaves you swayed by numbers and actually breaks intrinsic motivation. The problem is not measurement itself but the target of measurement.

Closing: Motivation Is Something You Can Handle

Let me return to the beginning. When my colleague asked why I was relentless at table tennis but not at studying, I blamed my willpower. Today I would answer differently. "Table tennis was something where autonomy, competence, and relatedness were all filled, and studying was empty on all three. It was not a willpower problem but a design problem."

Motivation is not an inborn personality but a structure you can handle. Desire is not fuel to be ashamed of but a drive to be honestly acknowledged and healthily wired. And the most powerful channel through which that drive enters is, in the end, people. A single good sentence switches on someone's motivation circuit, and a single bad one switches it off.

So these days I pay attention to two things at once. One is designing my own motivation system well, and the other is becoming a person who switches on someone else's motivation. The two are actually the same story. Motivation, in the end, is something people do, and that person includes myself.

Looking back, I changed not because I gained stronger willpower. I changed because I swapped the question that blamed my will for one that examines environment and people. That single small shift turned a loop of self-blame into a loop of experiments. So if you feel unmotivated right now, before blaming yourself, I hope you first check whether the three inlets are blocked.

What if today you offered someone a single sentence that switches their motivation on. And to yourself, too.

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