https://www.youngju.dev/blog 천천히 올바르게. AI Researcher & DevOps Engineer Youngju's blog. GPU/CUDA, LLM, MLOps, Kubernetes AI workloads, and data engineering — plus mindset essays on confidence, routines, health, and sport psychology. ko fjvbn2003@gmail.com (Youngju Kim) fjvbn2003@gmail.com (Youngju Kim) Mon, 20 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/comparison-trap-healing.en https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/comparison-trap-healing.en The urge to compare yourself with others does not switch off just because you want it to. Comparison is a basic cognitive function of being human. The problem is not comparison itself, but the fact that comparison in the age of social media has become a structurally unfair game. Through the lens of social comparison theory, this post looks at why we keep measuring our everyday average against the edited peaks of others, and how to redirect comparison instead of switching it off — toward your past self, toward process metrics, and toward defining your own event. Mon, 20 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT fjvbn2003@gmail.com (Youngju Kim) mindsethealingsocial-comparisonself-esteemsns https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/comparison-trap-healing.ja https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/comparison-trap-healing.ja 他人と比べる心は、消そうとしても消えません。比較は人間の基本的な認知機能だからです。問題は比較そのものではなく、SNS時代の比較が構造的に不公平なゲームになってしまったこと。社会的比較理論のレンズを通して、なぜ私たちはいつも編集済みの最高の瞬間と自分の平均を比べてしまうのかを確認し、比較をやめる代わりに向きを変える方法 — 昨日の自分、プロセスの指標、自分だけの種目の定義 — をお話しします。 Mon, 20 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT fjvbn2003@gmail.com (Youngju Kim) mindsethealingsocial-comparisonself-esteemsns https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/comparison-trap-healing https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/comparison-trap-healing 남과 비교하는 마음은 끄려고 해도 꺼지지 않습니다. 비교는 인간의 기본 인지 기능이기 때문입니다. 문제는 비교 자체가 아니라, SNS 시대의 비교가 구조적으로 불공정한 게임이 되었다는 점입니다. 사회 비교 이론의 렌즈로 왜 우리는 늘 편집된 최고점과 나의 평균을 비교하게 되는지 살펴보고, 비교를 끄는 대신 방향을 바꾸는 법 — 어제의 나, 과정 지표, 나만의 종목 정의 — 을 이야기합니다. Mon, 20 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT fjvbn2003@gmail.com (Youngju Kim) mindsethealingsocial-comparisonself-esteemsns https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/comparison-trap-healing.zh https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/comparison-trap-healing.zh 与他人比较的心，想关也关不掉。因为比较是人类的基本认知功能。问题不在比较本身，而在于社交媒体时代的比较，已经变成一场结构性不公平的游戏。本文借助社会比较理论的视角，看看我们为什么总是拿别人剪辑过的最高光时刻与自己的日常平均值相比，并聊聊与其关掉比较、不如调转方向的方法 — 昨天的自己、过程指标、定义属于自己的项目。 Mon, 20 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT fjvbn2003@gmail.com (Youngju Kim) mindsethealingsocial-comparisonself-esteemsns https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/self-compassion-courage.en https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/self-compassion-courage.en On the days we make mistakes, we say the most hurtful things to ourselves — things we would never say to a friend. Through the three elements identified by self-compassion pioneer Kristin Neff (self-kindness, common humanity, mindfulness), this post explores why being kind to yourself is not self-indulgence or laziness but a condition for recovery and growth. It is time to part with the old belief that self-criticism is the whip that keeps us going. Mon, 20 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT fjvbn2003@gmail.com (Youngju Kim) mindsethealingself-compassionresilienceself-esteem https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/self-compassion-courage.ja https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/self-compassion-courage.ja 失敗した日、私たちはいちばん痛い言葉を自分に向けます。友人には決して言わないような言葉をです。セルフコンパッション研究の開拓者クリスティン・ネフが整理した三つの要素(自分へのやさしさ、共通の人間性、マインドフルネス)を通して、自分にやさしくすることがなぜ自己正当化や怠慢ではなく、回復と成長の条件なのかを見ていきます。自己批判こそが鞭だという古い信念と、別れるときが来ました。 Mon, 20 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT fjvbn2003@gmail.com (Youngju Kim) mindsethealingself-compassionresilienceself-esteem https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/self-compassion-courage https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/self-compassion-courage 실수한 날, 우리는 가장 아픈 말을 자신에게 합니다. 친구에게라면 절대 하지 않을 말들을요. 자기연민 연구의 개척자 크리스틴 네프가 정리한 세 가지 요소(자기 친절, 보편적 인간성, 마음챙김)를 통해, 자신에게 친절한 것이 왜 자기합리화나 나태가 아니라 회복과 성장의 조건인지 살펴봅니다. 자기비판이 채찍이라는 오래된 믿음과 헤어질 시간입니다. Mon, 20 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT fjvbn2003@gmail.com (Youngju Kim) mindsethealingself-compassionresilienceself-esteem https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/self-compassion-courage.zh https://www.youngju.dev/blog/mindset/self-compassion-courage.zh 犯错的那天，我们会把最伤人的话说给自己听 — 那些绝不会对朋友说的话。本文通过自我关怀研究开拓者克里斯汀·内夫总结的三个要素(善待自己、共通人性、正念)，来看看善待自己为什么不是自我开脱或懒惰，而是恢复与成长的条件。是时候告别"自我批评才是鞭子"这个古老的信念了。 Mon, 20 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT fjvbn2003@gmail.com (Youngju Kim) mindsethealingself-compassionresilienceself-esteem